IBIBAZO BY`IMBORO N`IGITUBA

Gusiramurwa no Kudasiramurwa ku Kibazo cya Sida

2011-12-09T10:45:00.000-08:00

Mu Rwanda abagabo bari gushishikarizwa kwisiramuza (gukebwa) mu rwego rwo kugabanya ubwandu bwa SIDA. Gukebwa bikaba byaremejwe n’abahanga benshi cyane ko birinda kuba umuntu yakwandura ubwandu bwa virusi itera SIDA kugeza ku kigero cya 44%.

Ikintu gitangaje kandi benshi batari bazi ni uko mu bihugu bimwe na bimwe bigaragara ko abagabo basiramuye aribo bibasiwe n’icyorezo cya SIDA kurusha abadasiramuye. Mu bihugu nka Lesotho, Malawi, Tanzania, Swaziland ngo nibyo bifite iki kibazo cy’aho abagabo benshi mu bafite ubwandu bwa SIDA ari abasiramuye no mu Rwanda abagabo basiramuye nibo bibasiwe na SIDA kurusha abadasiramuye.

Ibi se byaba byemeza ko gusiramura bituma abantu bandura SIDA kurushaho ?

Ikigaragara muri iyi mibare ni uko umuti nyawo wo kwirinda SIDA atari ugusiramurwa ahubwo ari ukwifata.

Na none kandi biragaragara ko muri ibi bihugu aba bagabo baba bariraye bagakabya ngo ni uko basiramuye kandi nyamara gusiramura bidakuraho burundu kuba umuntu yakwandura virusi itera SIDA.

Ibibazo by'Imboro n'Igituba

2011-01-25T08:46:00.000-08:00

IBIBAZO BY'IGITSINA

2009-12-19T22:53:00.001-08:00

Komera. Ibibazo byawe bifite ishingiro.Ndagerageza kubisubiza uko
nshoboye ariko umenye ko guswera atari science exact uko mbikora siko
ubikora siko na kanaka wundi abikora kandi abagore si bamwe.

1.* gukaresaamabere y umugore wa byaye kenshi , ni kimwe nokubi korera
umukobwa ? ese bashyukwa kimwe . nyigisha uburyo byizacyane ushobora
kubikorera abobose .

Igisubizo. Gukaresa umugore wabyaye amabere yaraguye si kimwe no
gukaresa inkumi nawe urabyumva ariko nakubwira ko umugore wabyaeye
ashimishwa no gukinishwa amabere naho ku mukobwa w'inkumi ibere rye
naryo ni nk'igituba kurikaresa bimuha uburyohe bwinshi nawe urikoraho
rikagushimisha. Bose rero bakeneye gukareswa ku mabere.

2.ni ubuhe buryo ushobora kurongora umugore igihe kirekire ntakurambirwe ?

Igisubizo-kugira ngo umugore atakurambirwa ugomba kwirinda gusohora
vuba bityo ukamuswera nawe abishaka wabona ugiye gusohora ukabikwepa
yajya gusohora ukayimwima mukibera muri ibyo kugeza mufashe icyemezo
cyo gusohora. Soma byose ku gusohora hano
http://gusohora.blogspot.com/. Twibukiranye ko guswera ari urukundo
iyo yumva umukunze wamukoresha icyo ushatse cyose!!

3.nyereka itandukaniro hagati igituba cy umunyarwandazi n icyu umunyamahanga ?

Igisubizo-Ntibishoboka!! Nzi igituba cy'umunyarwandakazi gusa!!

4.wanyaza umukobwa utamusweye ? gute ?

Igisubizo: Wamunyaza bigashoboka ariko bisaba niveau y'umushyukwe
n'urukundo rwinshi yumva ko umukunda, bibaye muri situation imeze
nkaho murimo kukiba nabwo byafasha, gusa nta gisaza umukobwa nk'imboro
mu gituba. Wanyaza ukoresheje intoki kuri rugongo. Hari n'abagore
binyaza uzabaze latoute@igituba.org azakubwira

5.nyereka amafoto ya rugongo ?
Igisubizo-Ndakwereka na video niba ubishaka!!
amafoto ya rugongo kanda hano
http://www.igituba.org/2008/12/amafoto-ya-rugongo.html
video ya rugongo kanda hano
http://videoamafotoguswera.blogspot.com/2009/10/video-ya-rugongo-yakuze.html

6. nyigisha kunyaza neza cane ?
Igisubizo-http://kunyazaumugore.blogspot.com/2009/03/kunyazapositions-zo-guswera-unyaza.html

IMBORO ISIRAMUYE N'IDASIRAMUYE

2009-08-22T11:06:00.000-07:00

Komera Damascene, usiramuye n'udasiramuye bose baswera neza iyo bazi
icyo bakora. Ubushakashatsi buvuga ko usiramuye atinda kurangiza kuko
umutwe w'imboro uba wambaye ubusa waragabanyije ubworohe(sensibilité)
kubera guhora yikuba ku myenda, ibi bituma atinda kurangiza bityo
agahaza umugore gusa iyo bikabije ababaza umugore. Imboro idasiramuye
ni karemano kandi iswera neza danger gusa ni iyo gusohora vuba kuko
iryoherwa vuba. Ugomba kwirinda gusohora vuba nkuko tubisobanura mu
gitabo KUNYAZA GUKUNA GUSWERA kiri ku http://www.igituba.org

2009/8/21, Singirankabo J Damasene <damusing12@yahoo.fr>:
> muraho. mporambashimira inama mudahwema kutugira niyo mpamvu numva nahora
> mbasobanuza ibyansobaniye. none se ni irihe tandukaniro hagati y' umuntu
> ukora imibonano mpuzabitsina yarisiramuje n' undi utarisiramuza ? ninde
> urangiza mberekandibiterwa niki, ninde uryoherwa cyane kurusha undi? ninde
> uryohereza umugore cyane kurusha undi.
>
> ikindi kibazo mfite umugabo w'inshuti yanjye umugorewe yambwiye ko
> ntanarimwe aramurangiriza kandi uwo mugabo yanze kujya kwa muganga ngo
> batazamusea kandi yiyubashye cyane mwagira namaki uwo mugabo cyangwa uwo
> mugore. MURAKOZE KANDI Imana ibahe umugisha

KUKI NTINDA GUSHYUKWA

2009-08-21T11:08:00.001-07:00

Komera. Abantu ntibateye kimwe niba uri muzima wihangayika
ntawagutumye amaturu. Hari ba mushyukwa ndende babishoboye niba
atariko uteye byikubabaza. Ariko niba utarashaka waba ufite ubwoba
bwihishe bwo gutera inda cyangwa hari aho utiyemera ku bakobwa. Ubundi
ujye wirinda gusohora mbere y'umukobwa kuko ntacyo waba ukimumariye
kuko utinda gushyukwa. Soma igitabo KUNYAZA GUKUNA GUSWERA kiri ku
http://www.igituba.org

on Love

2009-08-05T11:03:00.001-07:00

The #magic of first #love is our ignorance that it can never end

Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence

Lucky is the man who is the first love a woman, but even luckier is
the woman who is the last love of a man

MBESE UDUKINGIRIZO TUBIRI TURUTA KAMWE?

2007-11-16T06:46:00.004-08:00

Udukingirizo tubiri tugenda twikubanaho uko winjira usohoka mu gituba bikaba byatuma tugucikiraho twose ukabura intama n'ibyuma, ibyari inama bikaba isoko, byose bikaba isupu!Icyangombwa ni ugukoresha agakingirizo kazima kandi neza.

NTUKENEYE IMBORO Y'INDENGAKAMERE

2007-11-16T06:46:00.003-08:00

Ubunini n'ubuto bw'imboro ntaho buhuriye n'uburyo umuntu ashimishwa n'igitsina ;ibyo nta n'icyo bibwiye umukunzi wawe. Mu byerekeranye no guhuza ibitsina mu gituba, uburebure bw'imboro ahanini nta cyo bumaze kuko 1/3 cy'umuyoboro w'igituba nicyo cyuzuyemo imyakura ifite icyo imaze mu kuryoherwa n'igitsina k'umugore; kandi na rugongo yibera hejuru ku mwinjiriro w'igituba. Igituba si umwobo ugomba kuzuzwa n'ikintu ahubwo ni inkuta ebyiri z'umubiri zitandukanywa n'uko hari ikintu kinjiyemo.Impamvu baswera bigatinda nuko ntaho baba bahuriye n'uwo babikorana. Ikibazo si imboro nini cyangwa intoya iyo ufite yose irahagije icy'ingenzi ni uko umenya kuyikoresha umurimo yahamagariwe. Impamvu abantu batinda ku bunini bw'imboro nuko batazi guswera icyo ari cyo bagatekereza ahari ko imboro nini yabafasha gukemura ibibazo byabo. Abantu benshi batekereza ko guswera ari ukujombagura imboro nini mu gituba ku buryo umugore ataka bisa naho urimo kumubabaza. Oya guswera ni ukumenya umugore icyo ari cyo, uko ibice by'igitsina ke bikora, uko wabikoresha byose hamwe n'uburyo wabikoreshamo kugira ngo ushimishe umugore. Umuntu uzi ibi ntakeneye imboro nini nubwo yaba atashyutswe yamenya gushimisha umugore.

MFITE IMBORO NINI CYANE

2007-11-16T06:46:00.001-08:00

Mfite imboro nini cyane ku buryo bitanyorohera guswera. Abagore benshi bakunze kunyima ngo mfite imboro y'indengakamere. N'iyo nsweye umuggore nta na 2/3 by'imboro yanjye bimwinjiramo igice kinini kigumira hanze.

IGISUBIZO

Imboro nini nk'iyo yawe ni inzozi z'abahungu benshi, nyamara imboro iri hejuru ya 20.5cm aba ari nini cyane ku buryo iba isumba uburebure bw'ibituba by'abagore benshi.

Iyo rero ufite imboro nk'iyo ugomba kwitonda ukamenya uko uyikoresha kugira ngo utavaho ukomeretsa umugore ku nta ngiriro y'igituba (ku muyoboro winjira muri nyababyeyi.) Gukoza imboro hano bijya bibabaza cyane cyane iyo umugore atarashyukwa neza.

Bumwe mu buryo wakoresha ni ubu

-guhenesha, ariko ntucumite cyane cyangwa ngo wifuze kugeza kure

-kuryama ku buriri mwese murebana, bituma bitakorohera ko imboro imushiriramo

-gusa nuswera ukuba imboro ku matako ye

-kureka umugore akagukinisha n'amaboko yombi, umutwe w'imboro yawe uri mu kanwa

-niba ashaka imboro mu gituba nk'uko abagore benshi babikunda, agomba kwishyira ho amavuta menshi atuma mu igituba cye hanyerera cyane, ariko na none ukirinda gucumita cyane cyangwa kwifuza kugeza kure.

-kumureka akajya hejuru akipimira imboro imujyamo uko ingana

-gahoro gahoro uko amenyera akanabishaka cyane, ashobora kugusaba k umariramo imboro kuko iyo umugore yashyutswe cyane ashobora gushimishwa n'uko imboro y'indengakamere imukubita ku muyoboro uri ku ntangiriro yanyababyeyi,kuko bituma agira ugusohora gukomotse muri nyabayeyi gukomeye cyane gutandukanye no gusohora hakoreshejwe rugongo.

Icyangombwa ni ukumenya ko ufite imboro nini ugategura umugore wawe ku buryo amaherezo muza guhuza.

MFITE IBYAGO BINGANA IKI BYO KWANDURA INDWARA Z'IBITSINA NKORESHEJE AGAKINGIRIZO?

2007-11-16T06:45:00.003-08:00

Hari indwara z'ibitsina zandurira mu mazi mvabitsina nk'Agakoko ka Sida, Gonorrhea, Clamydia n'izindi zandurira ku gukoranaho ku mubiri. Agakingirizo kakurinda indwara zandurira mu mazi mvabitsina. Nyamara kuko agakingirizo kadatwikira ibice byose by'umubiri ushobora kwandura indwara z'igitsina zandurira ku ruhu mugenzi wawe yaba afite.

MBESE NAKONGERA UBUNINI BW'IMBORO YANJYE

2007-11-16T06:45:00.001-08:00

Hari uburyo bubiri bwo kongera imboro yawe:

1.Uburyo bwa Bihari(The Bihari Procedure):muri ubu buryo, muganga akata inyama imboro iba ifasheho mu mubiri.Ushobora kunguka 5cm ku mboro yawe nyamara iyo ushyutswe imboro ntiyitunga mu hejuru nk'uko bisanzwe kuko nta ho iba ifashe.

2.Guterwa ibinure

Hari ibinure bikurwa inyuma ku bibero bakabitera mu mboro.Ariko akenshi umubiri ntiwemera kongera guterwamo bino binure bigasaba guhora babigutera bishobora gutuma ugira infections.

IKITONDERWA nta mpamvu ufite yo kwiremaza wiruka inyuma y'imboro nini keretse ahari cyabaye ikibazo cy'urupfu n'ubuzima.

MBESE KWIKINISHA HARI ICYO BYANTWARA?

2007-11-16T06:44:00.001-08:00

Kwikinisha ni inkota itemera impande zombi,ugomba kuyikoresha witonze kuko urebye nabi wakwitema!Abantu benshi ntibabivugaho bimwe,bamwe babirwanya bivuye inyuma,abandi bakabishyigikira bivuye inyuma.

KWIKINISHA BIKURINDA

-gutekereza cyane

-Bituma amaraso yasigaye mu nda yo mu kwezi ashirayo vuba ku bakobwa

-Ushobora guhita usinzira wari wabuze ibitotsi

-Bifasha umubiri kwirinda indwara

-Bituma ugwa neza,ntugire umushiha

-Bituma utiriranwa imishyukwe,urarikiye by'indengakamere ikindi gitsina.Uba ugishaka,ariko ntuba umusazi ku buryo wakikoza isoni.

-Bituma udakunda kwiroteraho kenshi.

-Byakurinda kuba wafata ku ngufu

-kwikinisha byakurinda kwandura Sida
,imitezi,n'izindi ndwara z'igitsina

-kwikinisha ni uburyo kamere bwo kumenya imiterere y'umubiri wawe

ICYITONDERWA

-kwikinisha ntibigomba gusimbura imibanire isanzwe hagati y'ibitsina bitandukanye. Ntibigomba kukubuza gushaka uwo mushobora kubana muhuza ibitsina bitabangamiye umutekano wanyu.

-ni bibi niba ari bwo buzima bwonyine ubona bushoboka

-ni ibintu ushobora gukora kugira ngo wirinde mu gihe ibyiza bibiruta utarabibona

-nta cyaha kirimo. Ugomba kubiha gahunda ntibigomba kuyiguha.Kubyita icyaha bizatuma uba umugaragu wabyo ukaba wabikora utanabishakaga.

-niba ufite uwo mwashakanye cyangwa mwashimanye,ugomba kumwitaho, mugakomeza urukundo, mugashimishanya kugira ngo utavaho ukunda kwikinisha kumuruta.

-ushobora gutwarwa na byo nk'uko ibindi bintu biryoha mu buzima bijya bitwara abantu n'akayoga, agatabi n'ibindi bikaba byatuma ugira ubunebwe bwo kwita ku mugore wawe, cyangwa kujya gushaka inkumi niba uri umusore. Ugomba kwitonda kugira ngo utavaho ugirwa umugaragu n'ikintu cyari kigufitiye akamaro.

MBESE IMBORO NINI NI BWO BUGABO

2007-11-16T06:43:00.002-08:00

Uramutse ugereranyije imboro yawe n'izindi mboro wabonanye abandi muri za film zo guswera ushobora gusanga ufite akaboro gato koko, kubera ko bariya bagabo baba baratoranyijwe gukina film kuko baba bafite imboro nini kurusha abandi, ikindi kandi film itubura imboro zabo ngo zibe ibitangaza kwigereranya nabo rero si byiza. Ubunini bw'imboro n'amabya bigenda bitandukana nk'uko abantu batandukanye. Ikindi, imboro yashyutswe n'idashutswe ntibingana uzirebere umunsi iyawe yashyutswe uko izaba ingana.

N'ubwo ushobora gushimishwa no gutemberana imboro nini wambaye ubusa mu bandi bagaho aho muhindurira imyenda, imboro nini ntacyo ihuriye ho n'ubugabo n'ubwo ariko umuco wacu ubitwemeza. Ubugabo si imboro ubugabo ni:

-kuba washobora kubyara umwana
-kuba umuturage cyangwa umuyobozi w'inyangamugayo
-kuba washobora gutunga urugo rwawe
-kuba uzi icyo ushaka mu buzima akaba ari cyo uharanira
-kuba umujyanama w'abasore n'ingimbi.

Mbese uwaguha guhitamo ibi maze kuvuga n'imboro y'igikoko wahitamo iki? Mbese muri ibi umugore yahitamo iki?

MBESE BISABA KO MBA NASHYUTSWE NGO MPAZE UMUGORE

2007-11-16T06:43:00.001-08:00

Bisaba ahubwo ko uba uzi umugore icyo aro cyo n'ahamushimisha.

MBESE ABAGORE BAKUNDA UMUGABO UFITE IMBORO NINI

2007-11-16T06:42:00.002-08:00

Byaterwa n'abagore. Hari abagore bake bashimishwa n'uko wabajomba ukageza ku ndiba y'igituba ariko abenshi ntibita ku burebure bw'imboro y'umugabo. Umugabo aryoherwa n'igitsina iyo imboro ye yitsindagira mu gituba ku gahato akumva rero imboro nini yabimufashamo. Umugore si ibyo gutsindagirwmo ikintu kitanemera kujyamo aba ashaka. Igishimisha umugore ni:

-umugabo atekereza ko amukunda
-kumva ari special kuri uwo mugabo, mbese amurutira abandi bagore bose
-kumva yegeranye mu rukundo n'umugabo

MBESE ABAGABO B'AMASUGI NI BAKE CYANE

2007-11-16T06:42:00.001-08:00

Abagabo bakunze kwirarira ngo baraswera kugira ngo bagenzi babo bumve ko ari ibihangangange, nyamara abasore benshi ntibazi n'uko igituba gisa keretse ahari mu bishushanyo!

Abagabo batekereza ko 1% yabo ari amasugi nyamara ubushakashatsi bwasanze 22% yabo batarahuza ibitsina n'umugore. 26% y'urubyiruko mu mashuri ntirurahuza igitsina.

NGO ABAGABO BAKUNDA IGITUBA CYANE KANDI AHO BAKIBONERA HOSE BAGIFATA NUBWO HABA ARI KU GITI

2007-11-16T06:41:00.002-08:00

N'abagabo bakunda igitsina hari ubwo baba bumva batagishaka, badashaka no kwishyira mu mwanya wo kugishaka. Akenshi abagabo na bo baba bafite ibindi bibahangayikishije mu mitwe yabo. Nubwo igitsina ari cyiza kandi ari ingirakamaro ku muntu ubikoze, hari ibindi bintu byiza kandi by'ingirakamaro umugabo ashobora kuba akurikiranye ku buryo atabireka ngo ayobywe n'igitsina.

No ku bagabo ibyo birashoboka.

Rimwe na rimwe hari igihe abagabo n'abagore bumva batitaye ku gitsina bitewe n'imirimo ibareba mu buzima. 30% y'abagore n'abagabo babona igitsina nk'umutwaro rimwe na rimwe kuri bo.

Abantu bemera ko umugore yakwanga guhuza gitsina nyamara ntibumva ko n'umugabo ashobora kwanga guhuza igitsina. Abantu bumva ko umugabo ari imashini y'igitsina akendera aho akiboneye ngo nubwo yagisanga ku giti! Si byo hari ubwo n'umugabo yanga guhuza igitsina kandi afite uburyo n'umwanya wo kubikora.

MBESE ABAGABO BAFITE ABAGORE BARIKINISHA?

2007-11-16T06:41:00.001-08:00

Ntibakunda kwikinisha cyane ariko barabikora iyo umufasha adahari cyangwa kugira ngo bishimishe ubwabo. Abashakanye baranakinishanya kuko bituma bumva begeranye cyane.

IMBORO YANJYE NI NTO SINSHOBORA GUHAZA UMUGORE WABYAYE

2007-11-16T06:40:00.001-08:00

Reka da, abagore babyaye ntibagira ibituba byagutse kurusha abatarabyaye igituba ni elastique, kirikwegura umwana agacaho hanyuma yo kubyarakikongera kikiyegeranya. Kandi na none si ikibazo cy'ubwaguke ni icyo kumenya guswera.

IMBORO NGUFI IBYIBUSHE IRUTA INDENDE

2007-11-16T06:39:00.002-08:00

Abagore benshi bihitiramo imboro ngufi ibyibushye kuruta indende kuko ngo indende ishobora kwangiza umuyoboro uri hagati ya nyababyeyi n'igituba. Imboro nini ibyibiushye ngo ni nziza kuko ikwirwa mu gituba ikanakuba kuri g-spot iba nibura kuri cm6 uvuye ku mwinjirio w'igituba ku rukuta rwo hejuru

IBY'IGITSINA BIBA BIRANGIYE IYO UMUGABO ARANGIJE.

2007-11-16T06:39:00.001-08:00

Oya iby'igitsina biba birangiye iyo bombi barangije. Mushobora kuruhuka, mukongera mugatangira cyangwa mugakoresha intoki kugeza mwese munyuzwe.

GUSWERA, IMBORO N'UMUGORE.

2007-11-16T06:38:00.002-08:00

Umugore ashyukwa bitewe n'igihe arimo mu kwezi n'imihindukire y'imisemburo mu mubiri we; ariko buri gihe igituma yumva ashaka guhuza igitsina ni wowe.

Umugore aba yumva ashaka gukora iby'urukundo iyo akunzwe.

Utwo dukorwa tw'urukundo ukora dutuma yumva mwegeranye:
-ako kajisho umwicira,
-iyo ndoro yawe,
-utwo turabo umuzanira umutunguye,
-uko kumufata ku rutugu cyangwa
- kumufata intoki, byose bituma yumva akunzwe.

Urukundo rwe ntaho ruhuriye n'imboro yawe,uwo akunda ni wowe imboro ikaba igice cy'umubiri wawe.Kuba rero wamunyaza cyangwa akaba yarangiza ntibiterwa n'imboro yawe ahubwo biterwa nuko abona umufashe.

KUKI IYO AKANTU KANKOMYE KU AMABYA MBABARA CYANE

2007-11-16T06:38:00.001-08:00

Iyo hari ikibaye ku mabya umugabo ahita abyumva vuba kuko mu mabya ariho imyakura myinshi iherera .Imitsi y'amabya itangirira mu kiziba cy'inda hafi y'impyiko.Niyo mpamvu iyo ikintu kigukubise ku mabya wumva ububabare bwinshi mu kiziba cy'inda.Ubwo bubabare buraryana cyane ku buryo umugabo yumva ababaye iyo abonye hari undi mugabo utewe umugeri mu mabya cyangwa akahakubitwa n'ikindi kintu abireba.

MFITE AKABORO GATO CYANE

2007-11-16T06:37:00.000-08:00

Mfite akaboro gato kagaruka inyuma kakaburira mu mubiri iyo ntashyutswe. Bintera isoni iyo ndi aho duhindurira imyenda n'abandi bahungu. Iyo nashyutswe gapima 11.5cm. Iyo ndimo guswera umugore birangora kukamugumishamo cyane cyane iyo amaze gushyukwa cyane akeneye imboro nini yo kumucumita.Akaboro kanjye gakomeza kugenda kiviramo nkumva bintesheje umutwe.

IGISUBIZO

Hagati ya 1 na 3% y'abagabo bagira omboro zimeze gutyo. Imboro nto cyane ku buryo iyo zitashyutswe cyangwa zishyushye zigarukira mu mubiri. Aba bagabo ubarebye wagira ngo nta n'imboro bagira. Hasigara hagaragara gusa umutwe w'imboro cyangwa akenge aho wagasanze imboro, bihumira ku mirari iyo umugabo afite ubwoba ko afite akaboro gato, n'ako yarafite gakunze kumuhunga.

Bamwe mu bagira utwo tuboro bashobora kugaragaza imboro itagayitse bamaze gushyukwa ariko abenshi n'iyo bashyutswe ziranga zikaba nto. Izo mboro zigarukira mu mubiri ziranagorana iyo umuntu agiye kunyara, bishobora kugusaba ko uyikururayo n'intoki kugira ngo utavaho winyarira.

Nta muti nta n'urukingo k'ubwoko bw'imboro nk'iyo keretse kwihangana no kumenya kubana na yo.
Umuti ushoboka ni ukwibagisha ariko na byo bikaba byakorwa gusa ari uko ari ngombwa.

Icyo ugomba kumenya ni uko ubugabo atari imboro nk'uko umugore atari amabere cyangwa igituba. Icyangombwa si imboro nini ahubwo ni ukumenya gukoresha n'iyo ntoya ufite. Ushobora gukoresha imboro n'intoki ukinisha rugongobigatuma
uhaza umugore wawe. Ikibazo ni uko abantu bafite imboro nto bakunze kwisuzugura bikababuza ibyishimo bari bakwiriye. Hitamo position zituma mwegerana kandi n'imboro ikaguma mu igituba nko guhenesha, cyangwa missioneri.

NGO ABAGABO BAGIRA IGITUBA

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NGO ABAGABO BAGIRAIGITUBA

Ni byo,usibye ko ntawe cyarangiriza ibibazo! Cyitwa"vagina masculina-igituba cy'abagabo!"nk'uko tubibwirwa na Dr David Reuben. Ngo cyashoboraga kuba igituba nyagituba iyo imisemburo y'abagabo"testosterone"itaza kubirwanya igihe akana k'agahungu karimo gatangira gukurira mu nda ya nyina mu minsi ya mbere. Icyo gituba cy'abagabo ubu ngo ni akanyama kanagana ku ruhago! Buri mugabo arakagira ngo ni nayo mpamvu tugira amabere yanze gukura !Urakomere ku gituba cyawe rero mugabo we.

NDASWERA ARIKO SINSOHORA

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Ndaswera nkaryoherwa kandi ngashimisha umukunzi wanjye ariko sinshobora gusohora.

Hari impamvu zitandukanye zishobora gutuma udasohora igihe urimo guhuza igitsina n'umukunzi wawe .Hari impamvu zo mu bitekerezo (psychologique) n'iz'umubiri (physique)

A.IMPAMVU Z'UMUBIRI(PHYSIQUE)

1. Zimwe mu mpamvu zishobora gutuma uswera ariko ntusohore ni ukwikinisha. Kwikinisha bituma umenyera ubwo buryo bwo gusohora ku buryo iyo ubonye umugore bishobora kukugora gusohora kuko ubwo buryo bwo gusohora ushyize imboro mu gituba uba utarabumenyereye. Ni byiza kuba urekeye aho kwikinisha niba ufite inshuti y'umukobwa mu gihe uteganya guhuza igitsina na we.

Mwaramuka muhuje igitsina ukabikora witonze udahubagurika, kugira ngo imboro n'umubiri byawe bimenyere igituba n'umugore.

2.Imiti yo kwa muganga, ibiyobyabwenge, n'inzoga nyinshi mu maraso na byo bishobora gutuma utarangiza

B.IMPAMVU ZO MU BITEKEREZO (PSYCHOLOGIQUE)

1.Kuba udashimishijwe n'umugore hari ikintu umunengaho.

2.Kuba ugereranya umukunzi wawe n'abandi bakunzi wigeze ugasanga bamuruta. Umugabo ashobora kuba afite imboro yashyutswe agaswera ariko iyo mu bitekerezo bye yumva adashimishijwe n'uwo babikorana ashobora kunanirwa gusohora. Cyokora ibi si kenshi ku bagabo ahubwo bikunze kuboneka ku bagore.

3.Kwishyiramo ko udashobora gusohora ukabyihata ku ngufu. Nta kintu cyatuma udashobora gusohora nko kumva ubishaka cyane ukanabyihata.

4.Kumva udashaka kwereka umugore ko uri umunyantege nke (gusohora bituma ucika intege ukamwikubita mu gatuza)

5.Amategeko ari mu mutwe wawe y'idini n'ababyeyi ko guswera ari icyaha cyangwa ari umwanda.

6.Ubwoba bwo gutera umukobwa cyangwa umugore ukunda cyane inda

7. Guswera utinya ko wakandura indwara.

UMUTI

Gerageza gusubiza bimwe mu bibazo navuze hejuru aho ariko icyangombwa ni uguswera udategereje gusohora, ahubwo ko uri mu murimo wo gutanga no kwakira hamwe n'umukunzi wawe. Ugomba kuba ushimishijwe n'uwo mubikorana, utuje, kandi uri mu mutekano ko nta ngaruka mbi uri bugire. Naho ubundi ushobora kwegera muganga uri hafi yawe akakugira inama niba bikomeje kwanga.

NJYE NSOHORA VUBA

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Impamvu

-kumva utiyizeye ko uri bukore ibikwiriye
-kuba mutabanye neza
-kuba wumva ufite ubwoba bwo kubikora cyangwa wumva ari icyaha
-kuba mutabiganiraho

NI GUTE NAKONGERA IGIHE MBERE Y'UKO NSOHORA

Ni byiza ko muganira mukamenya icyo mushaka, niba mushaka gutinda gusohora cyangwa niba mushaka gusohora vuba.

Iyo mushaka gutinda kurangiza umugabo aswera atekereza ko agomba kwibuza guhita asohora.

Birashoboka.
Ugomba kwitoza kubikora kuko iyo umugabo ari hafi gusohora abimenya. Wirinda gukomeza gucumita umugore iyo ubonye uri hafi yo gusohora no gukora ibindi bikorwa byatuma uhita usohora. Abagabo benshi barabizi ko hari ahantu umugabo agera akaba atagisubiye inyuma ngo areke gusohora. Iyo udashaka gusohora wirinda kugera aho hantu. Ariko ntibyoroshye. Icya ngombwa ni ugutuza kandi ukumva ufite controle yawe. Ibyiza ni ukubigerageza hashize iminsi ubonana n'umugore cyane noneho igihe ugiye kwitoza ukagenda usa n'utabishaka cyane, byagufasha. Abagore n'abakobwa benshi uburyo batangamo neza igituba butuma abagabo benshi basohora vuba. Ushobora kumva uri hafi gusohora ukamusaba ko agabanya kunyonga cyangwa ubundi buryo agufashamo kugira ngo udasohora vuba.Mushobora no guhindura position yo guswera mu gafata ituma umugabo atinjira mu umugore cyane. Guhuza ibitsina ni ukuganira no gutuza, iyo ibyo bibuze habamo kujahagurika. Gusohora vuba bishobora gutuma mudashimishanya bihagije.Cyangwa bigatuma umugore asigara "mu kirere"

IMYITOZO YO KWIGA KUDASOHORA VUBA

-iga kudasohora vuba mu gihe urimo kwikinisha(uba uri wenyine nta na pression ikuriho)

-koresha agakingirizo ngo urebe ko kakugabanyiriza uburyohe ntusohore vuba

-shaka position ituma utamushyikira cyane kugira ngo utinde mu mwanya wa mbere yo gusohora

-mushake ibindi muba mukora byatuma mudasohora vuba nko kuba murekeyeho kwegeranya ibitsina ahubwo mukorakoranaho, musomana, muganira n'ibindi.

GUSOHORA KW'ABAGABO

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Navuga ko gusohora ari ugusohora nyine! Ni ukvuga kugera iyo wajyaga. Iyo utangiye urugendo rwo guhuza igitsina uba ufite iyo werekeza. Iyo ugezeyo uba usohoye. Abananirwa gusohora ntibaba bagezeyo, baba baciriye urugendo mu nzira. Iyo umuntu arimo guhuza igitsina n'undi muntu aba yumva biryoshye, uburyohe bukagenda bwiyongera gahoro gahoro kugeza ku kadomo buba bwinshi cyane ku buryo budashobora kuharenga. Icyo hatangira umwanya witwa gusohora.Icyo gihe imitsi yari yuzuyemo amaraso itangira kwifungura amaraso agatangira gutembera mu buryo busanzwe. Ariko muri icyo gihe navuga ko ibintu byose bisa n'ibisandaye umuntu ntamenye ibyo arimo, ushobora no gutaka cyangwa ugasohora andi majwi udashobora gutegeka. Umuntu aba arimo guhumeka cyane, n'amaraso yihuta cyane.Imboni z'amaso ziratumba, ushobora no kuzana ubuheri ku mubiri cyangwa ukabira icyuya. Muri icyo gihe imitsi n'inyama z'igitsina biba birimo kwikanda byirekura nibura buri masegonda 0.8. Biba byihuta rero. Gusohora bishobora kumara amasegonda 10. Mu bagabo muri iki gihe amasohoro aba arimo kwisuka asohoka mu mboro.

KWICWA N'UMUSHYUKWE

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Kwicwa n'umushyukwe si ugushyukwa bisanzwe. Gushyukwa ukakwica ni ukwifuza umugore cyangwa umukobwa cyane ku buryo usohora ariko amasohoro ntasohoke ahubwo agafatirwa mu dutsi ajya anyuramo kubera ko nta mbaraga zabonetse zo gusohora burundu. Ibi bituma umugabo yumva arimo kuribwa n'amabya bikamubabaza.

UMUTI

Jya wirinda kwishira muri position zatuma ushyukwa birengeje uzi ko nta buryo bwo gusohora ufite.

Ushobora kwikinisha.

KUKI NTAKUNDA GUSHYUKWA?

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Hari impamvu nyinshi zishobora gutuma unanirwa gushyukwa.

-guhangayika
-umunaniro
-uburwayi
-kugera mu za bukuru
-imiti
-kuba imibanire nuwo mwashakanye itari shyashya
-kwihata ibiyobyabwenge(inzoga nyinshi n'itabi bishobora kuguca intege)
-umujinya
-kugaya uwo mushaka kubikorana

GUSHYUKWA NI IKI(KU BAGABO)

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-Gushyukwa ni ukwikomeza kw'imboro guterwa nuko udutsi twayo tuba twuzuyemo amaraso. Gushyukwa bituma imboro iba nini kuruta uko yanganaga itarashyukwa igahagarara yemye.

-Gushyukwa cyangwa umushyukwe bishobora kwirangiza ubwabyo cyangwa ari uko umuntu asohoye-kunyuza imbuto/amasohoro mu kayoboro k'imboro zikamenekera ku munwa wayo.

-Uburyo warangizamo umushyukwe wawe byaterwa nawe. Ku bataramenyereye guswera,umushyukwe ukunze kwirangiza,ariko ku bamenyereye kurangiza umushyukwe ari uko bagombye kurangiza bikunze kubagora keretse basohoye.Ubuze uko ubyifatamo wakwikinisha cyangwa ukihangana,byaterwa n'ibikoroheye.

Ni ryari nshobora gushyukwa?

Umuntu ashobora gushyukwa igihe icyo ari cyo cyose.Umubiri ni ko ukoze.

Gushyukwa bishobora guterwa:

-no kureba amashusho yerekana ibitsina
-kwifuza guhuza igitsina n'undi muntu
-Kugira ibitekerezo byerekeranye n'igitsina
-Gushyukwa bishobora kwizana.Ushobora kubona imboro yawe ireze nta mpamvu utanabiteganyaga rwose uri mu ishuri cyangwa ku kazi.Ni ibisanzwe ni ko umubiri uteye.

Ufite igitekerezo ku gushyukwa wakitugezaho.

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KUGANIRIZA UMWANA W'UMUSORE/INKUMI IBYEREKERANYE N'IGITSINA I

Igitsina ku matelevision, igitsina mu binyamakuru, igitsina muri za filmes ndetse n'ahandi. Aho urebye hose uhasanga amafoto y'abagore bambaye ubusa cyangwa bambaye impenure. Abana bacu ibyo bintu barabibona, bahura na byo nta buryo wababuzamo kubireba kuko biri hose. Ariko nubwo bimeze gutyo biragoye kubona aho umubyeyi yahera aganiriza umwana ku gitsina cyangwa ibyerekeranye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina muri rusange. Binahumira ku mirari iyo bigeze mu muco wacu aho abantu batinya kuvuga ibice by'imyanya ndangabitsina,ni ubwiru bukomeye.Ubivuze aba ruvumwa aba akoze ishyano, abantu baramureba bagatangara bagatekereza ko yahanzweho n'abazimu, kubona atinyuka kuvuga imboro, nta bwoba afite bwo kuvuga igituba na rugongo, aratukana ni umushumba! Ndabyemeye ndi umushumba!None se wowe utari umushumba, uzahugura ute uwo mukobwa wawe upfunduye amabere n'uwo muhungu utangiye guhindura ijwi akaba atangiye kwitegereza abakobwa nk'aho ari abantu bo mu yindi si? Uzamutungukahe umusobanurira uburyo agomba kwitwara mu rungano no kwitwararika mu byerekeranye n'igihe cy'imihindukire y'ubuzima bw'igitsina agezemo. Akeneye gusobanurirwa ibyerekeranye n'igitsina n'imibonano mpuzabitsina muri kino gihe tugezemo aho indwara zifatira mu myanya ndangabitsina zagwiriye kandi zoreka imbaga nka sida, imitezi, mburugu n'izindi tutibagiwe gutwara cyangwa gutera inda utabiteganije. Uzagira isoni se zikurishe uburozi ureke umwana wawe azivumburire ku giti cye cyangwa uzashira amanga wambuke imanga y'ubwoba n'isoni ufate umwana ukuboko umwambutse umwonga w'ubujiji umusobanurire udatinya, umuhugure umuhumurize?Niba uhisemo inzira maze kuvuga dore uko wabyifatamo.

1.Hera ku mahirwe ubonye yo kubiganiraho.

Niba hari nka programe ihise kuri radio cyangwa television ikomoza ku buryo bwo kwirinda mu mibonano mpuza bitsina,boneraho utangire ikiganiro.URUGERO "MBESE IYO CAPOTE BAVUZE UZI ICYO ARI CYO, Sida se ni iki,umuntu urwaye imitezi agenda ate?"

2.Wibikomeza cyane.

Ni ubwo uzi ko bikomeye si ngombwa kubitindaho cyane, hari ubwo yaba atiteguye kuganira nawe kuri ibyo bintu, wabivugaho gake wigendera, umumenyereza ko kuvuga ku birebana n'igitsina ari ikiganiro gisanzwe n'ibindi umwana n'umubyeyi bashobora kuganira.

3.Vugisha ukuri.

Niba ufite isoni, bimubwire. Mubwire ko ufite isoni zo ku bimuganiriza ariko ko ari ngombwa ko ubivuga, kuko waba umuhemukiye unihemukiye utabimubwiye. Niba hari ibibazo akubajije bikakunanira, mubwire ko utabizi wimubeshya, cyangwa ngo uhimbe, musabe guhakira ibisubizo hamwe, mwabaza muganga , mwarimu, padiri, pastoro cyangwa undi waba ubisobanukiwe kubarusha.

4.Gusha ku ntego.

Wirya iminwa no kuvugira marenga:mubwire ko guswera ari ugushyira imboro mu gituba,ko umwana adaturuka mu mukondo,ahubwo mu gituba,mubwire ko imitezi ituma imboro ibora,mu gituba hakanuka,uburyo mburugu yica nabi ,ko sida yandurira akenshi mu gushyira imboro mu gituba.!Witinya ibyo ni ko biri, indwara ni mikorobi ntaho zihuriye n'ikinyabupfura. Mubwire uburyo butandukanye bwo guhuza ibitsina(mu gituba, mu kibuno, abagabo ku bagabo, abagore ku bagore, mu kanwa, n'ibindi), ubwiza n'ingaruka bya buri kintu. Aha ni ho uzamenya ko kubyara no kurera bitoroshye. Musobanurire uburyo agomba kwirinda gutwara cyangwa gutera inda, niba ari umukobwa, musobanurire igihe agomba kwwitegurira kujya mu kwezi (akenshi ni hagati y'imyaka12-13, imisamire y'umugore uko igenda n'ubury bwo kwirinda gusama. Musobanurire ingorane ashobora guhura nazo mu gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina itarinze

*agahinda ku mutima
*indwara zifatira mu myanya ndangabitsina
* gutwara/gutera ikinyendaro

6.Mbese we abibona ate?

Wisa n'umutsindagiramo ibintu cyangwa umutera ubwoba umubeshya ibitabaho,umukanga kugira ngo yibagirwe ibyo guhuza ibitsina-ashobora kuzabyivumburira ukaba utakimufiteho ijambo kuko wamubeshye.Ahubwo mufashe gutekereza ku giti cye,kugira ngo akubwire uko abib ona n'icyo abitekerezaho,mugire aho muhera mwungurana inama.Mwereke ibyo uvuga ubikuye ku mutima.Mubwire ubimubwiye nk'umubyeyi kandi ko wifuza ko yakubaha nk'uko umuco ,umuryango ubisaba akitwara mu buryo butakoza isoni umuryango

Fungura imiryango-mu bwire ko ari sawa muganira ku gitsina

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